The debate about gender and identity has become one of the most polarizing conversations of our time. More and more young people are experiencing discomfort or confusion related to gender and their own bodies. Many identify as something other than their biological sex, and more are seeking medical or legal gender-affirming treatment. This often happens at a very young age – despite the fact that research and clinical experience indicate that there are underlying causes that must be taken seriously.

Research shows that over 70 percent of young people with gender dysphoria also have other mental health challenges. That’s why it’s important to ask the hard questions: What really lies behind this experience of being “born in the wrong body”? And what kind of help do we provide to children and young people who are struggling?

We need holistic answers – not ideological theory

Instead of uncritically affirming the experience or offering irreversible medical interventions, we must be willing to explore the possible causes behind gender confusion. We need a holistic view, where mental health, trauma, environmental influences, body image and social influences become part of the assessment. Gender identity should not be isolated from the rest of the person.

There are many factors that can contribute to gender confusion – often unconscious and complex. Here are some examples that have been highlighted in research and clinical practice:

• Trauma and dissociation: Abuse or serious psychological trauma can cause children to distance themselves from their own bodies.
• Body dysmorphic disorders: A distorted perception of the body and gender can be an expression of deeper psychological discomfort.
• Social impact: The phenomenon of Rapid-Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD) points to how youth groups and social media can contribute to a sudden change in identity.
• Autism and ADHD: Many people with neurodivergence report bodily discomfort or a feeling of not fitting into gender roles.
• Ideological pressure: Queer theory and radical gender ideology present gender as an identity one can choose for themselves – contrary to biological facts and classical understandings of gender.

Time for reflection and responsibility

Being open to the possibility that there are underlying explanations is not the same as rejecting or judging individuals. On the contrary, it is about offering better help, more precise guidance and safer care. When young people are in deep identity confusion, they deserve more than ideology and quick solutions. They need adults who dare to ask questions and seek the truth with love and wisdom.

There are only two genders. No one is born in the wrong body. No one can actually change gender. These are biological facts – not ideology. When children and young people today are exposed to messages that say the opposite, it is no wonder that confusion is increasing.

An appeal: Raise the age limit for treatment

Based on what we know about brain development, the impact on mental health and the risk of irreversible damage, the age limit for medical treatment for gender incongruence should be raised to at least 25 years. We have a responsibility to protect young people from experimental treatment that in far too many cases does not provide a lasting solution – but rather more pain, suicidal thoughts and regret. The age limit of 25 is the same as for sterilization.

Let us stand together for truth, safety and love – even in the face of the most vulnerable among us.

Resources for more info about gender incongruence, suicide risk, and treatment:

https://www.genid.no/vitenskap

https://statsforgender.org/suicide

https://segm.org/news

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